5 Steps to Creating Healthy Boundaries That See Us Thrive

Updated: Oct 18, 2019


Photo by Julian Santa Ana on Unsplash
Photo by Julian Santa Ana on Unsplash

Healthy personal boundaries are absolutely essential to our wellbeing and are crucial across all areas of our lives.


Our boundaries allow us to function within society without compromising our health, happiness or our moral compass. They are the framework which protects us from being exploited or taken for granted. They enable us to manage our time and energy and give us control over how we choose to live our lives.


When we think about setting boundaries, our thoughts may immediately go to the workplace, but actually, personal boundaries should also extend to our private and family lives, as well as the wider world and society in general. Anywhere we have relationships or interactions with people, we should have boundaries in place. By doing this, we allow time and space for ourselves and we make it clear to people how we expect to be treated.


Everyone is entitled to set boundaries and to have the expectation that those boundaries will be respected by others. However, despite this fact, many of us struggle to do this, for a number of different reasons - we may feel guilty for saying no; we may fear the disapproval of family or colleagues; we may mistake self-preservation as being selfish; perhaps we measure our self-worth by pleasing other people; or we may worry about losing something – our job, a friend or a loved one.


Our boundaries make it clear to people how we expect to be treated.